Alexis Rose, Author – PTSD

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Alexis is an experienced speaker on the topics of living with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder.  She is also an active blogger who writes about PTSD, Mental Health, and Trauma, with a bit of poetry sprinkled in along the way.

For more information about Untangled, A Story of Resilience, Courage, and Triumph, and If I Could Tell You How It Feels, to request a book signing, or to ask Alexis to speak to your group, email: atribeuntangled@gmail.com

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Watch your thoughts

I think most of us are familiar with the saying you are what you eat. It seems we are what we think as well. I read a quote this morning that reminded me of hidden messages in water. The link below is from What the Bleep do We know. Enjoy!

Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. – Frank Outlaw-

 

Daily Prompt – Meander

+IpdOQOCQia14X2gtTaqlQ_thumb_4478I’m happy to report that I have one more item checked off my bucket list as I continue to honor my goal to live my best life.

I just came back from a trip to Ireland. I had a chance to  Meander the long winding roads as we traveled the countryside​ for a week before the snow storm hit. The trip was amazing even though we got snowed in for a few days due to the “Beast from the East” snowstorm and snowstorm​ Emma. The Dublin Airport shut down for a few days causing us to extend our stay by a few days.  I can’t think of a better place to be “stuck.”

The people of Ireland are as beautiful as the country side. Everyone we met was friendly, helpful and in good spirits.

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Giant’s Causeway

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Life’s detours.

Establishing goals is all right if you don’t let them deprive you of interesting detours.-Doug Larson-

I think we have all heard the saying “when one door closes, another one opens.” It might feel like that door is more like a small window you have to maneuver through or sometimes it might feel like beautiful French doors that pop wide open. Whatever the case it’s important to see the blessings in life’s little detours.

A few years ago I worked for a company that moved me into a position that was “best for the needs of the company.” My title remained the same, I was just working in a different business unit. I was transferred from the IT area to another business area in operations. I tried to fight it. I was unsuccessful. The move shifted the trajectory I thought I was on. It was hard not to feel like a marionette puppet.  Even harder not to be bitter. I had a choice; I could leave. I decided to stay and change my perception and see it as one of life’s detours.

Instead of taking it personally, I thought of the monthly emails announcing position changes and the emails announcing as of today x is no longer working here.  It was common practice to move people around the company chess board. I will admit, in the past when I read those emails I felt they were playing Russian roulette with the employees. We were the “bullets” in the chamber and with an almost quarterly spin, you could be shot out like a cannon or hang back in the chamber waiting for the next spin. Recognizing it was a business and of course, the needs of the company was a factor in each of our career paths, I took a tuck and roll approach. I adjusted with each change and over the years, I had several more in “the best interest of the company” moves.

For the moment the dust has settled. Things have stabilized. I work with a great team. They are both collaborative and supportive of each other. My position allows me to use all of my strengths and I’m able to learn new things, which is important to me. I’m in a good place while I wait for the next spin.

Embrace the detours. Thinking back they seemed to arrive around the time I was getting comfortable and nestled in, and quite possibly limiting my opportunity for growth. I was given the chance to make delicious lemonade from a basket of perceived Lemons. Maybe it wasn’t the company making the changes, but the universe setting things in motion for my highest good. Sure feels like that now.

 

 

The Friday Reminder and Prompt for #SoCS Feb. 10/18

The Friday Reminder and Prompt for #SoCS Feb. 10/18

Linda G. Hill

Welcome to Friday here on my blog, complete with your Stream of Consciousness Saturday prompt. I’ve been busy this week writing a story for an anthology that’s going to be all sex. It’ll be coming out (pun unintended but inevitable) under my pseudonym, so don’t look for details here … I can let you know more if you’re interested. Anyhoo, I only mention it because I can’t stop laughing as I write and I’m not sure this is a good thing. Funny smut is allowed, isn’t it?

Here’s your prompt:

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “tail/tale.” Use one, used them both, you decide. Enjoy!

After you’ve written your Saturday post tomorrow, please link it here at this week’s prompt page and check to make sure it’s here in the comments so others can find it and see your awesome Stream of Consciousness post. Anyone can join…

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Being Vulnerable​

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao Tzu-

Opening your heart and loving someone deeply can make you feel vulnerable. It is a scary thing. Watch this talk by Brene Brown and you will see that it is worth the risk of being hurt.

Thoughts, Feelings, ​and Actions

Life is not discovery of Fate; It is continuous creation of future, through choices of thoughts, feelings, and actions in the present. – Sanjay Sahay-

I started working on a vision board last week to help keep my thoughts, feelings, and actions in the present and on target with my end goal. It grew into a few small separate vision boards. I can’t wait to see everything unfold. I’m curious how many people keep their eye on the ball so to say and find that their desire comes to fruition faster and more precise than when they have a desire and then just put the thought aside. Have you noticed a difference?

One of the “manifestation” tools I use when writing a novel is to build the cover first. Then I frame the cover and hang it over my desk for inspiration. The book feels real and almost complete. All I have to do is type 60k-70K words. A piece of cake. 🙂

 

The art of giving

You give but little when you give your possessions. It is when you give yourself that you truly give. – Kahlil Gibran

I donated some winter clothes last month. The Paralyzed Vet Organization came by the house and picked up a few bags. Easy breezy. I’m working on living my best life and had an insight, my best life involves helping others live their best life.  I moved to Portland two years ago and work from home. I am embarrassed to admit that I rarely leave the house and when I do my husband usually drives. I go to the grocery store, Doctor’s office, Dentist and occasionally the mall. I still get turned around. When I think I’m heading to the mall, I drive by my Doctor’s office. Dang, it. That is happening less.

Here is my solution! I’m going to volunteer to pick up donations. I will get out of the house, learn the city and meet new people. Hopefully, they have a weekend shift. If not, I have always enjoyed volunteering at the food bank.

I’m off to google volunteer opportunities. Wishing everyone an amazing day sharing your gifts.

 

Past reflections

When we recall the past, we usually find that it is the simplest things– Not the great occasions– that in retrospect give off the greatest glow of happiness. – Bob Hope

I had a glow of happiness today. During a meeting, I volunteered to draft out a detailed plan design of a project we are starting. After I hung up I wondered if it were possible to get everything documented in two days. I opened up my “shell” template for the plan design and realized I had already started it when we passed one of the main stage-gates a few months back.  Bonus, I was far along in the documentation.  The sweet glow of happiness filled the room.

Don’t forget to count these moments when you reflect on the things you are grateful for. I’m with Bob. These simple things are gems!

 

 

A well-lived life

I’ve been knee-deep in finals and school ends this weekend. I lost my writing momentum but am getting back on track.

I’m still working on a well-lived life. I walked the trail at lunch today. It was a slow peaceful walk with lots of insights.

How am I doing with my goal to live a well-lived life? I booked a trip to Ireland in February and London in April. I’m not the best traveler so it is really pulling me out of my comfort zone but I am really looking forward to new experiences.

Each today, well-lived makes yesterday a dream of happiness and each tomorrow a vision of hope. Look, therefore, to this one day, for it and it alone is life. – Sanskrit Poem-