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About jkostakis

Author of Paranormal Detective Mystery series and inspirational books.

Write The Story

My sister gave me a book called write the story. We are randomly picking a story on Sundays and sharing it on Thursdays. The Story we picked is “The main character witnesses a crime.”

We must include the following in our story: Christmas, almond, paisley, lion, pipe, scream, fade, french horn, inflate, maple.

I’ll work on it this week and post on Thursday. I think it would be fun if others want to join. I’m not sure how to do the link to other’s pages, but if anyone wants to join in I’ll try to get it figured out by Thursday.

Joyce

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Get Off the Couch and Find Something Interesting!

Can’t wait to check these off. This will help me with my goal to get out of the house!

Traveling Grandma

Greetings!

Recently, I was facilitating a meeting around getting some activity into our lives – and doing it a bit differently.  It is easy to say “I’m going to get off this couch and get moving!” and an entirely different matter to turn off the TV and actually DO something.

Looking for something different and unusual can be motivating – so I searched for some ideas that would be a little different than taking a stroll around the neighborhood.  Here are some ideas around my neck of the woods – if you don’t live near Portland, Oregon, how about searching “unusual places to go in ________” (fill in the blank) and let me know what you find!  (This posting is also available under the Day Trips tab).

Unusual Places to Go

In or Near Portland, Oregon:

1.  Ranier Oregon – Largest captive Sloth preserve in the world. No sloths…

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Everyday Matters.

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I superimposed my mini-me Bitmoji avatar onto a favorite vacation spot in Ireland. I have it as my screen saver on my computer and iPhone as a reminder that every day matters when you are going about your everyday matters.

 

 

Causeway stairs

The round rocks in the Giant’s Causeway are a result of an ancient volcanic fissure eruption. They are beautiful and the view is breathtaking.

Life is short. Sometimes it feels like we are in a hamster wheel repeating each day like ground-hog-day. Days blur together and it seems like one day is no different than the next. Lather, rinse and repeat. It may feel that way, but it is not true. Every day matters and everything we say and do in that day matters as we go about our everyday matters.

 

Why does it matter that I superimposed a comic image over a volcanic rock? It matters to me. It represents a few things.

  1. I acted on a commitment to myself. (I took a vacation with friends and family)
  2. My path may be rocky at times, but my foundation is smooth and strong.
  3. What am I going to do with my life today? Good reminder to start my day mindful.

My decision to live my best life after a brain-bleed inspired spending quality time with family and friends, to get out of the house more, take more vacations and stress less about work.  Ireland was a new vacation spot for me in my quest to experience new things. The rocks are round and smooth but the path to the top can be a bit rocky. Pun intended. I love this photo. As I walked up the path I thought ‘I’m okay with a rocky path because I know my foundation is strong like the columns that formed these rocks bursting through the fissures.’

How we respond to life’s eruptions matter. For that matter, we are in full control. We can choose our response, our reactions. We can stay positive and mindful or we can spiral out of control and lash out at those around us.

How we spend our day is not a trivial matter. In fact, it is a matter to take quite seriously. What matters most is that you are true to yourself each day.  As a matter of fact,  staying in your integrity is one of the few things we have control of when we make decisions that matter or in our response to someone when we have asked them if something is the matter.

Please trust me in these matters. Life is short and the days are shorter. Don’t waste them especially when it comes to matters of the heart.

 

Meet Libby! Free e-books!

 

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This was me! That is until I realized I could download free e-books and audiobooks using my library card! You can check them out for 14 days using an App!

 

 

No more trips to the library and no late fees. In 14 days the book is automatically removed from your queue.
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This is similar to downloading books from your library website, but using the Libby App you can download audiobooks as well.

 

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You will need your library card to set it up.

You can set preferences for audio, e-book, fiction….

I select available titles. If you are patient you can select all titles and go on a wait list if it is checked out.

Enjoy!

Be true to yourself.

 

Your only obligation in any lifetime is to be true to yourself. -Richard Bach-

Being true to yourself revives inspiration. I have learned after numerous cycles of making drastic changes, switching jobs every five years and changing relationships that chasing the next shiny object, starting over with something or someone new isn’t necessarily the best answer. The excitement is short-lived. When the newness wears off, the feelings stir again, and the cycle repeats. Instead, I realized that making small tweaks along the journey makes all the difference.  Embracing new experiences and making even minor changes can take me from feeling like I am in a perpetual rut, stuck running the hamster wheel of life to being inspired again.

I discovered my feelings of discontent, much like a two-year-old child tugging at my skirt,  would not be ignored and would continue to haunt me until I listened and took action. The call to action was to be my authentic self or as some call it unapologetically honest standing in my truth. For me, it was recognizing that although I had a beautiful life, it was okay to feel out of sorts and that and even though my life was ideal, it was perfectly acceptable to feel something was amiss.  It was okay to want something different and to go one step further and do something about it.

I remembered a comment a friend made about repeating patterns in a relationship and that until you learn whatever lesson was being sent your way, that pattern would continue to repeat itself.

Without a doubt, I have a pattern of boredom and oddly enough contentment is the catalyst. I discovered that if I felt stagnant, the road back to Pleasantville was barricaded. To move the barrier, I had to figure out where the feeling was coming from and what part of my spirit wasn’t fulfilled. I am happy to share that in my experience a full life change may not be necessary and that it is possible to move from a mundane life to an inspired one with subtle modifications like learning new skills. For me, I just have to keep growing and learning, or I feel like I am stuck on a hamster wheel repeating each day over and over like Groundhog Day. I believe we are not meant to be static. We have to learn new things and seek out challenges that keep us growing and evolving. Mahatma Gandhi – Live like you were dying but learn like you were to live forever.

Retrospective Mind

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Retrospective

Today’s daily prompt put me in a retrospective frame of mind. I’ve been trying to practice being more mindful and staying present both at work and in my personal life. I can definitely see the benefits. It has helped me savor the moments, be more engaged and focused.

I’m a project manager and at the end of a project we take a retrospective look back at what worked and didn’t work. The comments are discussed, documented and procedures are tweaked as applicable for the next project. I realized my mindful practice helped me to break down the issues more readily than in past projects. Having a present awareness during the project seemed to store things in my long-term-memory for easier recall when it came time to drill into the lessons learned. Is this possible or is it my imagination?  Anyone else have similar experiences?

Doppelganger

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Doppelgänger

 

Curled up in a chair in the hospital room, I watched the “me” laying on the bed sleep for several days. The feeling of being pulled towards the ‘me’ on the bed came and went. I was never more hopeful than the last time it happened. I was within inches of my body when the sensation ceased. I grabbed for my body but, before I could reach it, I was back in the chair, frustrated but hopeful. That was the closest I had been to rejoining. I could feel the will to live.

Why am I separated? What is keeping me from waking? I thought back to all the movies about people crossing over. It didn’t make sense. Wouldn’t I be the one having experiences that would keep me from wanting to come back? There was no tunnel, no light, and no departed loved ones helping me to cross over. There was just me the observer watching my body sleep. Could it be that there were three of us: the observer “me” stuck in the hospital watching my body, the “me” recovering in the hospital bed, and a third “me” visiting Mom and Jim in heaven refusing to come back? I remembered my friend Vicky telling me about our different layers. I just remembered a few: the physical, astral, casual, celestial, and etheric. Or something like that. I think she said the etheric is closest to the physical so that would explain why I can still feel sensations that happen to my physical body like the defibrillator and the patch. She talked about the astral being the closest level to the spirit plane; maybe I was in my astral body. Maybe this “me” floating outside of my body was something altogether different. Something Vicky doesn’t even know about. I was so frustrated and confused. I couldn’t think of anything else that would keep me from wanting to wake up other than being with Mom and Jim again.

I watched as friends and co-workers stopped by with flowers and quick stories about what was happening in their lives and how they missed me and prayed for my recovery.

I walked around the hospital in observer mode for what seemed like days. I walked past the staff… unseen. Only a few patients could see me. I assumed they were on the edge of death. I sat with an elderly woman as she pointed out the relatives filling her room to help her cross. I couldn’t see any of them but said pleased to meet you as she introduced each member of her family that had passed. I was hoping that not seeing them was a good sign that I was more rooted with the living than the dead. I spent most of my time in the children’s ward telling stories to the few that could see me. I tried not to think about the fact that if they could see me, they might be dying. I couldn’t remember stories from my childhood, so I made some up. I was sure on some level they knew I was different from the staff. I hoped they wouldn’t ask questions. Questions I had no answers to.

Deciding that I couldn’t wait for my body to pull me back in, I took a running start and leaped onto the bed falling backward. I hoped the momentum would shove me back in my body. Instead, I went through my body as well as the bed and ended up on the floor underneath. I stared up at the bed frame and mattress. “I’m in hell, I thought. I’m sure of it. I’m doomed to watch myself for eternity.”

My next strategy was to lie on the bed. If I were a fragment of the Kate on the bed, maybe I could connect. Perhaps I would see what she was seeing, see what was keeping her from returning. I crawled out from underneath the bed. I’m sure I could have just risen through it, the same way I fell through it. It just felt normal to crawl Continue reading

Archaic

Today’s prompt:
Archaic

Your work is your signature. I’m not sure who said that, but I saw it on a t-shirt last week. I agree with it wholeheartedly. Unfortunately, it seems archaic.

I’m experiencing just the opposite. I’m finding it harder to find team members that    take ownership or accountability. Instead of having confidence in the result, we  need 1/2 dozen signatures signing off on the final product because no one wants to take ownership or accountability.

I’m curious if anyone else is experiencing this.

 

Honor Yourself

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I’m sure most of you have heard people use an analogy based on the opening lines of the airlines’ “how to survive a crash” speech. It’s probably going off in your head now. “Put your mask on first and then assist your child or the person next to you acting like a child.”

The “put your mask on first” applies to your daily life as well as when you are waiting for “the oxygen mask to fall.” Just as you are no help to your child if you are passed out because you didn’t get your mask on time, you’re not as helpful to your family if your energy is spent and you are exhausted.

If you can afford it, I highly recommend regular massages. If you can’t, there are so many ways you can pamper yourself. Draw a nice lavender bath, take a walk in the woods, meditate or listen to a guided meditation, go to lunch or dinner with a friend, or just block out time to read a book from your favorite author. Better yet, take a nice long nap! I’m pretty sure the world will keep spinning if you don’t get X done today and you take a few moments for you!